Spread the Love Blog Tour (On Writing and the Writing Life)

Earlier this summer, Aaron tagged me in his blog tour post. Great idea, I thought. This will be a simple, fun Q/A to break up the long silences I’ve had here ever since I found out Baby Trust is on the way, I said to myself.

Then, it sat in my inbox. More silence.

But I’ve been badgering myself all week to write something on the blog, and I remembered I never answered the following questions. Here’s to hoping today marks the end of prolonged quiet.

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What are you currently working on?

The honest truth? My memoir has been sitting untouched for over eight weeks now. I haven’t written much in this space since summer began. I suppose you could say I’ve been hibernating.

I’m reading from my summer book list and then some, journaling, jotting down blog post ideas on receipts and old envelopes, and sometimes I spend evenings watching multiple episodes of Friday Night Lights.

Super productive, I know.

How does my project differ from others in the same genre?

If we’re talking about my memoir, then I would say at this point I’m not really sure. I’ve been wrestling with whether or not my story would ever be a good fit for a Christian publisher, wondering if I would have to censor myself more than I’m willing to. On the other hand, the spiritual aspects of my story aren’t something I’m willing to eliminate so perhaps I will need to figure out new ways to share it that would engage audiences of different faith backgrounds.

In other news, I recently had an interview with RELEVANT Magazine to share some of my story as well as my thoughts about the way millennials may be shifting their thinking about divorce. I had a really great conversation with the writer of the piece, and even though much of what I said did not make it into the article, it still ended up being an opportunity I’m grateful for. RELEVANT tends to play it safe when it comes to difficult topics, and so I plan to share some thoughts and experiences which were not part of the final piece, but came up in my conversation with the reporter.

Why do you write/create what you do?

Is it too cliché to say it’s good for my soul? Maybe. But that’s the truth.

I write to know myself, to know others, to know God. I have to write in order to embrace my life fully. If I go for long periods without writing, I begin to internalize every. little. thing. and that isn’t good for me or for anyone else in my life.

How does your writing/creating process work?

I try to be open to the creative process as much as possible. For me, that means listening intently, observing, and being fully present in the moment. It can be exhausting because my brain does not shut off, ever. I don’t just watch a TV show or read a book and check out for an hour. No, I watch and wait for a line which grabs me or body language which intrigues me or a character I fall in love with, and then I scribble it down for later.

I need long stretches of time to work on my memoir. I don’t do well with a half hour here or there for that kind of writing. I often need to be alone when I work on it.  So when I do have a large chunk of time, I go somewhere where I won’t be interrupted and/or run into anyone I know.

Blogging is different, sometimes a post takes a half hour or so to write, and then I publish it right away. Other times, I’ll write a post and let it sit awhile, edit, rewrite, and sometimes I delete the whole thing entirely.

When it comes to what I want to write in my memoir or online, I come back to words from Natalie Goldberg, “Nothing is that important–and everything matters.”

What I write will not matter to everyone, but it might matter to someone. Even if that someone is me, it was still worthwhile.

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I’m tagging a few friends to add to the blog tour. I’m looking forward to hearing what TamaraAndee, and David have to say. If anyone else wants to join in, feel free to use these questions and add them to your site! Thanks for reading.